There’s nothing wrong with giving. Yet, it’s a trait we take on – one that morphs into sacrifice and martyrdom quickly – especially as parents.
We live in an interesting time to be parents, to be so aware of the psychological influence we have on our children. As written in this NYT article, you don’t have to give until it hurts.
In the video below, I discuss what it means to be a parent, to give all you got, but also not give all you’ve got.
How can we do this? What’s the quick answer:
it has to do with how you view your relationship with your child.
And most of all, it has to do with how you view yourself.
I’ve steered away from talking about parenting much, but am finding a new leaf has turned for myself. I’ve primarily mothered for the last 3.5 years, and it’s been my greatest path of awakening and also being with the discomfort of that awakening.
I’ve sacrificed (which I discuss in this video) but I haven’t lost myself completely.
You don’t have to lose yourself in order to be a good artist, a good parent, a good anything…
Actually, it makes you a better everything to know who you are and to honor that.
Tell me, what’s one way you can honor you and your child’s individual needs this week?
I want to know!