There have been a lot of changes in my life over the course of 2 weeks. I got married, I changed my name, I moved into a new home, and it is the first time my husband and I are living together.
Phew! I’m exhausted just writing that out in one sentence.
We also took a nice honeymoon in the middle of all of that change. (See picture of me and the wild horses of Cumberland Island
I really had no idea what sort of emotions would be brought up with all this shifting. I was prepared, but some days it really felt like I was watching my emotions from another point of view.
Don’t get me wrong, all of this change has been my heart’s desire, full of excitement, and (mostly) playfully fun(don’t know if moving our 2 homes into 1 felt playful, but there were some helping friends that indeed assisting in that feeling).
Yet, this change it has brought up some of my old patterns of thought.
Not the best patterns of thought, may I add (self-doubt, critical, jealous, doomy, you get the picture).
So, I decided to take a look at creating some new patterns. Why not, with all of this new-ness around me!
Today I write about my Never Mind Practice that I has helped me through these hurdles.
At first swing, the words ‘never mind’ make me cringe because of the phrase’s dismissive quality. But I think this phrase is quite a gift, when I look deeper into it’s meaning.
For me, never-minding allows for me to stop taking my thoughts so seriously. Saying ‘never mind’ to all the questions and concerns at this time in my life gives me permission to listen to my body and soul and what I really need and want.
What does my body and soul say about ________ (fill in the blank with whatever concern is there)?
Usually it says, never mind about that, stop wasting your time minding all over that, and look–there is so much in front of you right now to bring you joy!
For me, I just get the chance to be present when I pause and use the Never Mind Practice.
As one of my wise parents told me, you can always leave the thought and return to it later.
- saying goodbye to my old apartment
I’ve been employing the never-mind practice so much during my transition, and it always brings me back to the happiness of a new chapter in my life.
I am reminded of the consistent love and support that surrounds me.
When do you feel the opportunity to practice never-minding?
And, let me not forget…
What a blessing to be able to look at it all and realize the cause, be it old non desirable thought patterns in this example, just brings me closer to my sense of peace and belonging.
Never-minding in an endless, mindful journey.