On dealing with imposter syndrome, like we do…
I have a theory that many of my readers consider themselves a highly sensitive person. Do you?
And that within that, you may also deal with imposter syndrome.
I’m not sure that there’s any data that links the two personality traits, but I can say that from my own client work, there’s definitely a link there.
In 1978, Dr. Suzanne Imes coined the term imposter phenomenon (not syndrome, because syndrome indicated something medical…) In this segment by Sylvie Douglis via npr, she and Dr. Imes discuss how typically there are people who overrate their abilities, and people who underrate their abilities.
Imposter phenomenon happens to those who underrate their abilities.
As I’m listening to this segment, I realize that I’ve been having this conversion with two close friends about not being enough — especially in the work world.
I’ve felt this imposter feeling intensely, in various ways, throughout my life.
As I discuss in my minute musing, I used to get my reference books out before my client calls, just incase I needed them. I never did, by the way.
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
you have what you need for the very moment you’re given.
There’s no way to predict what you’ll need for the future.
There’s no way to know what you’ll need for that future scenario.
How can you release yourself from trying to figure out what you’ll need for the future?
They (the world, the opportunity giver, your client) chose to connect with you for who you are, right here and now.
They want you (not future you or past you).
May you always feel a sense of compassion as you embrace yourself when you feel like an imposter.
Check out this 3 minute musing on the subject, where I may say things a bit different than I’ve written here.
Embracing you, always.